This post is dedicated to my awesome Mummy-BFFs Mrs J (my dear cousin), and Mrs P (my long time friend and Wifey).
I have shared my thoughts on unsolicited advice before, I guess this post is about advice that is actually requested. A few of my friends were pregnant around the same time as me and/or have children who are still quite young. I therefore had (and have) a wealth of knowledge and expertise at my disposal. In my opinion, (which is based on my experiences to date), every pregnant mum-to-be and new mum needs a Mummy-BFF. I’ve listed my top 10 reasons below.
1. Mummy-BFFs understand your hormonal changes, sometimes even better than you. And certainly better than your spouse. I will say no more 😉
2. Mummy-BFFs give you the low down on maternity clothing.
Very early in my pregnancy, I started searching online for maternity clothes on the few sites that I knew about. I didn’t like what I saw. Mrs J and Mrs P came to my rescue. Firstly, they recommended great stores that I hadn’t even thought of. They also shared their wisdom about not necessarily buying maternity labelled items and suggested buying non-maternity pieces, but in a larger size.
3. Mummy-BFFs will give you honest product reviews.
We all know that the baby list can be very long. Thanks to my Mummy-BFFs, if I was interested in an item that they had, I would ask their honest opinion and recommendation. I did this with items such as nappies, breast pads, feeding bottles, sterilisers….and the list went on. (Thankfully for them, I spaced out my requests and didn’t bombard them all at once.)
4. Mummy-BFFs will save you money
Mrs P is one savvy shopper. She opened my eyes to ‘Baby events’ at supermarkets and shared the benefits of bulk buying when things are on offer.
5. Mummy-BFFs will tell you the truth about labour pains
I remember talking about my ‘birth plan’ with my Mummy-BFFs. They helped me to keep an open mind, shared their experiences but made it clear that no two births are the same. I asked for the real and they did not sugar coat or needlessly embellish their experiences.
With Motherhood (post-pregnancy):
6. Mummy-BFFs are problem solvers who are ‘on call’ 24/7
In the first few weeks and months, my Mummy-BFFs were there to answer a multitude of queries that I had. Google is great and so are online forums for mothers, but nothing beats first hand experience. Because they have passed through that issue (breastfeeding/colic/teething etc) and survived, you can be rest assured that they will give you a solution to try, and that you (and baby) will survive too.
7. They make your #MumFails OK
The great thing about Mummy-BFFs is that they have your back no matter what. There’s no judgment, just support. If I go out and forget a change of clothes for my son, my Mummy-BFFs will remind me that “it happens”.
8. Mummy-BFFs understand, they just get it
As a new mum, it is very easy to get overwhelmed with everything and anything. On days when it felt like it was too much, my Mummy-BFFs were there to listen to my ranting. They just knew that I would be fine after offloading whatever it was that was bothering me. When we are outside the comfort of home and The Boy decides that an outing is not for him (i.e. throws a tantrum), my Mummy-BFFs understand (in other words, I’m not made to feel like a bad mum).
9. Mummy-BFFs encourage your individual growth
They understand that children grow at different rates and that what worked well for them may not work for me. So, they encourage me to find my own path and my own style and they support me in that.
10. Mummy-BFFs are awesome because they love you and they love your child as their own.
Smelly nappies, running noses, baby sick….these necessary but less exciting parts of parenthood can be shared in their presence.
To all the awesome mummies out there who are making another mummy’s day by offering support, THANK YOU!